It’s no secret that parents judge one another. We don’t even mean to and sometimes we don’t even realize we are doing it. Often, the unawareness of our judging brings us to give some unsolicited advice. What if I gave you some unsolicited parenting advice that can be used in all aspects of your life? Well… I am going to, but it is more of a pep-talk!
The Original Thought
There other day I was chatting with a new mom of a three month old. She was telling me that her child has had some issues being fussy and possibly having so reflux issues.
I so badly wanted to blurt out my experiences with these situations with my own children. I wanted to to tell her that we had to give up breastfeeding both kids because they had such bad reflux with it and that it took 3 different formulas to figure out which one was best for our son. In the meantime, he often was worse and I cried when he cried. Most of all, I didn’t want to leave him. I wanted to share all of my trial and errors with her to save her the heartache. She never asked for any of that information though.
In fact, she mentioned her own trial and errors and what she was doing to work on these issues. She told me about the advice she had received from others and the pressure she felt. She said she felt like she felt like she was failing her child. The worst thing any non- alcoholic, drug addicted, sex abusing parent could say.
This is what I said to her….
YOU ARE ROCKING IT! YOU KNOW YOUR CHILD BETTER THAN ANYONE ELSE. SO, DO YOU! YOU DO WHAT YOU FEEL LIKE IS BEST AND DON’T WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK.
After this mini pep-talk, I started thinking. “why don’t I ever say this to myself? Why don’t I apply this to other aspects of my life? Where could I?”
So this my friends, is my own self pep-talk. I hope that you can talk something from it as well and and go rock your life!
YOU ARE ROCKING IT! YOU ARE GIVING IT ALL YOU HAVE GOT AND MORE!
My marriage is a work in progress. Just as it should be. My husband and I have been through our fair share of heartache, we share many joys and plan for more! We are not perfect. Is there a perfect couple though? Don’t ever compare your relationship to someone else’s. You never know what happens when no one is around. Instead, Pray for them.
Know that you are doing everything you can for your relationship. I love spending time with my husband. Therefore, weekend getaways are a high priority for us. We try to do 4 a year. If more become possible, we jump on the chance! I am rocking it. I make sure my husband eats, has a (mostly) clean house, I give him his alone time when I can tell her needs it. He feels loved. We cuddle and watch TV together, and we communicate. Right now, we are doing our best and giving everything we can. We are always looking for new ways to grow closer. For right now, WE ROCK!
I am constantly standing in my own way. Doubting my own ideas, my capabilities, and my desires. I let others opinions of my influence how I see myself and let them determine who I am and what I can do. I know I am rocking it though. Somewhere in all that self doubt, I am still fighting. I strive to better myself. I continue to educate myself and look for opportunities to use my education. Is my “work” limited to my 9-5, anyway? I don’t think so!
My kids not have everything. They may not have seen every signle Disney movie. I know y’all….stop judging! We don’t even have a DVD player or game console! But they know manners. Yes, we are still working on using them, but they know them! My house may not always be spotless, but stop by anytime! We live here and we are happy to share our space with you! Laundry is never “always done”. Whose is? If you say “Me”… you better tell me that you have a laundry service or you are single. Otherwise, SHHH!
At the end of the day, my family eats, we have clean clothes and we are all still alive! So guess what? I ROCKED IT!
If you are like me and you are harder on yourself than most people are on you, then give yourself this pep-talk…Tell yourself, “I ROCKED IT”! You really did. If you have given everything you have, then you are doing great momma! We are all doing our best! No one ever gave us owners manuals for the kids, much less our husbands. All we can do is pray, read our Bibles and thank God everyday that we survived! Next time you are feeling down, make a list of all the things you have done that day, not matter how small the task was. I bet you will have done more than you even thought!